The Happy Alternative isn’t a one-stop shop (but please feel free to stop here as often as you’d like). There are so many great websites that keep things real and Christ-centered. Here are a few of my favorites:


This site features writers from various Christian traditions, including Protestants, Catholics, and a smattering of others. Of note is the site’s founder, Wesley Hill, who wrote Washed and Waiting: Reflections on Christian Faithfulness and Homosexuality. Spiritual Friendship is an extension of the conversation Hill started in that little book — a book that profoundly influenced my life, as it convinced me to take my experience with same-sex attraction to a wider audience. A friend of mine also writes for Spiritual Friendship, so there’s that too.


These guys from the UK are delightful, not only because of their accents, but also because of their fierce commitment to Christ. These men — some married, some single — are committed to God’s design for marriage and sexuality. They have great video resources (for those among us with shorter attention spans), along with written articles that address homosexuality a bit more in-depth. Be sure to also check out the Questions and Resources sections.


This is a collaborative blog where I used to write weekly (until I got lazy and blogged quarterly). It’s also where I “came out” to the world and began talking openly about my experience with same-sex attraction. Founded by a group of friends from Biola University, the website now includes writers from all around the world, several of whom are good friends. Here you’ll find an array of topics ranging from scholarly to devotional, including my old stuff on homosexuality. Some of my articles include unfortunate terms that I don’t use anymore (such as “homosexual lifestyle”), omit terms that I use today (such as “gay”), and say things I don’t fully agree with several years later. But I think the overall sentiments still hold true.


Yeah, I’m one of those guys. I appreciate most of what TGC posts because the topics are varied, timely, and relevant. Although, like any collaborative site, there have been a few articles that made me raise an eyebrow and ask, “What the H?” But TGC has reposted a couple of my articles in the past, which tells you we’re generally on the same theological page.